Every day ask yourself:  "What thoughts would I have, what activities would I perform and what daily choices would I make if I really respected myself?"  How would you feel if you started thinking and acting that way instead of your old, habitual way? Self respect is key to a happy life.

If you think it might make you start to feel better about yourself, why not start doing it now?  Start thinking and acting "on purpose".  As you do, you will find that you are taking more and more control over your own life.  You will now be nurturing and empowering yourself. Self respect does that

We are all magnets.  We attract into our lives those people who generate the same kind of energy we do.  As we become more nurturing and empowering, we will attract more of this kind of person into our life.  Others will jump on your bandwagon and support what you are trying to accomplish. This is another aspect of the law of attraction.

There will, however, always be people who don't want to see you succeed.  There will be those people who will try to sabotage your progress.  I believe that affirmations can help us stay focused under any conditions.  I have used this affirmation myself and have had many clients us it also.  Repeat it outloud 5 times in a row in the morning when you wake up, just before you go to sleep and as many times in between as you need to keep yourself focused.

The affrmation is:  "No matter what you say or do I'm still a worthwhile person."

Keep this thought in your mind and the feeling in your heart and you will be able to stay focused on your own personal development program.  Sometimes, someone may try to interfere by directly confronting you verbally.  Should this ever happen, do not become argumenative.  This is what the other person wants.  By getting you to join in an argument, they know you are upset and out of the "good" place you were when you felt like a worthwhile person.

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This is when becoming assertive can really help you.  The best assertive response you can make when someone is trying to bait you into an argument or trying to put you down is to say:  "Thank you for your feedback".  Said with enthusiasm, with most people, this phrase will put an end to whatever negative behavior was going on.

This may look and sound too simple but it works.  It's worked for me and for many clients I've taught it to.  One key element here is that you have to say it like you really mean it.  When it's said with enthusiasm, the other person is thrown off track because it is not the response they expected from you.

With just this one affirmation and one assertive response, you can begin to help yourself become more self-confident, happier and more successful.
You will respect and love yourself.

Thomas D. Yarnell, Ph.D.
Clinical Psychologist
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